What does Hardballing mean?

Telling what you want before the first date is called ‘Hardballing’

Hardballing is a recent trend in the dating world where people lay out their expectations clearly before setting out on a first date. It’s a strategy that people use to ensure they only date those who share their relationship goals.

This method got its name from the phrase “playing hardball,” an approach where someone behaves assertively to obtain what they want. The concept of hardballing is not entirely new, but it gained popularity in December 2021, particularly among Gen Zers (those born between 1997 and 2012) who appreciated its forthright nature, in contrast to the often deceptive portrayals of life on social media.

Hardballing involves asking potential partners questions like whether they want children, what their five-year plans are, and their political or religious views. However, it’s important to remember that this level of honesty can be off-putting to some who might not be expecting such frankness.

Example for using ‘Hardballing’ in a conversation

Hey, I have a question for you before our date tomorrow. Are you looking for something serious or just casual fun? 😊

Oh, that’s a direct question! I’m actually looking for something serious, not just a fling. What about you?

Same here! I’m tired of wasting time, so I prefer to be upfront about my intentions. πŸ˜…

I appreciate your honesty! It’s refreshing to meet someone who’s on the same page. Let’s have a great date tomorrow!