What does Pocketing mean?

Going out with someone you’re not sure about

Pocketing is a slang term used in the dating world. It’s when you’re in a relationship with someone who you enjoy spending time with, but you’re hesitant to take it to a deeper level. You might be unsure if they’re the right one for you in the long run, and so, you’re not ready to introduce them to your family and friends.

If you’re the one doing the pocketing, it essentially means you’re putting the person on hold. There might be certain red flags about them that are making you hesitate. This could be anything from their inability to hold down a job, to them being dishonest, or simply not igniting a strong enough spark in you. You’re keeping them in your “pocket”, buying yourself more time to decide about them or to potentially meet someone who’s a better fit.

On the other hand, if you’re the one being pocketed, chances are you’re not aware of the red flags causing your partner to hesitate. You might be working on these areas but haven’t shown enough improvement, or perhaps you’re unwilling to change and hope that your partner will accept you as you are.

Being pocketed can be a frustrating experience. Essentially, you’re being told, either directly or indirectly, that you’re not worth the investment for the next steps in the relationship. This could be anything from becoming exclusive, meeting their family, moving in together, or even getting married.

Example for using ‘Pocketing’ in a conversation

Hey, remember that guy I’ve been going out with?

Yeah, what’s up?

I think I might be pocketing him.

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